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国际学校告诉你家长教育的有效期

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国际学校告诉你家长教育的有效期

做父母的有有效期,这个说法听起来有点新鲜。其实,真的好理解。下面,国际学校的老师推荐龙应台的文章《做父母也有“有效期”,最不该偷懒那十年》,让年轻的父母珍惜这做父母的有效期,培养好下一代。

今天,很多人或许意识到,如果说父母是一份职业,那么这份职业经常存在“无证上岗”的现象,不过很少有人去思考父母的教育是否存在“有效期”的问题。在龙应台看来,父母也是有“有效期”的,在孩子最依赖的十年里用心教养,提供依靠,一旦孩子长到青春期,父母再怎么努力,也再无法提供实质性的影响。如果在孩子需要的时候父母忽略了教养,将来孩子再怎么叛逆,父母也只有摇头、叹息的作用了。

最近去拜访了朋友,当我们都坐在朋友家的后院吃东西聊天时,他们的大女儿回家了。大女儿今年18岁,已经不住在家里了。她跟着她的同居男友一起走了进来,两个人手上都各拿着一支烟;穿着很新潮,露着小肚子,后面露出腰的部分还有一个刺青。

那个男孩子的手腕跟手臂上也有刺青。两个人互相窃窃私语,有说有笑,但对外人都露出很不屑的眼神。

这让我蛮感慨的,我突然领悟到一件事,那就是其实父母跟食物一样,都是有“有效期限”的。

父母的教育功效已经“过期”了

我次见到这女孩时,她才8岁,跟我老大现在一样大。10年前我去她家时,她可以在短短时间内,把我送的一瓶清酒上的字和图,都一模一样地画出来。

一个中国小女孩,居然可以把“日本清泉清酒”和酒牌上的樱花,三两下就轻松地描绘出来。我好惊讶,自从那次以后,我经常怂恿她的父母带她去拜师学艺。但他们永远都可以找出一大堆不是理由的理由来搪塞我。

奇怪的是她的父母一面搪塞我,却又可以一面跟我炫耀她女儿最近又画了什么。突然惊觉10年过得好快,好像才昨天的事情,现在已经是10年后了。

我不认为她的父母现在有资格去批评他们的女儿,因为一直以来,她的父母只顾着自己,从没重视过她的教育问题。现在再想教育已经不可能了,理由很简单,那就是因为父母的教育功效已经“过期”了。而且她的父母在“有效期限”内也没努力过。

我必须要在黄金时期内帮我的孩子做好面对未来的准备。

孩子在小的时候,父母对他们来说是万能的,是完全可以依靠的。这就是父母对孩子教育的黄金时期。等孩子一到了青少年时期,父母的“有效期限”就快到了。

该说的,该教的,该做的,都应该早就都做足了,是到了验收的时候了。这验收的是父母的教育方针,也是孩子对外界的应变能力。“过期”后的父母再怎么努力,也比不过10年前来得有效了。

我突然很感叹,我告诉我自己,我必须要在黄金时期内帮我的孩子做好面对未来的准备。因为时间真的过得很快,一转眼就过了。我不想将来只有叹气、摇头的份儿。

是呀!父母是有有效期限的。小孩儿是老天爷(或上帝)给我们的礼物,当你不珍惜的时候,老天爷(或上帝)就把这份甜蜜的礼物收回了。

国际学校的老师提醒诸位家长:莫等闲,辜负教子黄金十年,空悲切。

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